One of my clients is a big people pleaser

As a result, he always really struggled to say no.

He’s the kind of person who would drop everything he was doing to help one of his colleagues and sometimes even do the work for them.

While this says a lot about his kind nature, it also meant that he was working extra hours to catch up on his own work.

The knock on effect being that he was feeling stressed, wasn’t taking care of himself, argued more with his wife and struggled to really be present when he was with his family.

We spent a few sessions digging deeper and helping him get clear on his Needs. What were the Needs he had to meet in order to live a thriving life?

We narrowed it down to 5 and two of those were Self-care and Alone-time. Two Needs that he had been completely neglecting.

When we looked at why he was neglecting them, he realised it was an indirect cause of his inability to say no at work.

Every time he said yes to help a colleague, he was reducing the time he could spend satisfying those two Needs.

When he realised this, suddenly it became much easier for him to say no and set clear boundaries at work.

This in turn allowed him to have more free time, which gave him more space to go cycling again and get that alone time he hadn’t had for months.

The result: significant drop in stress, improved relationship and way more quality family time.

Taking care of your Needs is the equivalent of putting your mask on first before helping others when the cabin pressure drops on a plane.

If you don’t do it, you’re not going to be much help to anyone. Let alone yourself.

So if you really struggle with saying no, consider getting to know your Needs.

They might hold the key to you finally understanding what it’s costing you to say yes.

Don’t want to do this alone? Send me a DM and let’s see how we can work together 😊


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